Hold Your People Close

        Yesterday we lost a good friend who should have lived much longer. When someone asked how he was, he always smiled and said, “Better than I deserve.” He was such a fine devoted family man. He was successful, but had not a whit of arrogance.  He knew he was blessed, but he never took it for granted.  As a doc in a little town you come to know your people well.  He was one more quality human being, and sure did deserve a lot more Happy Birthdays.

        If I haven’t learned anything else in the doc biz, it is to hold your people close. We aren’t promised tomorrow, so let’s all make the best for today we can.  If my friend was still here, I can promise you he would do exactly that.

Dr. B

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12 Comments on “Hold Your People Close”

  1. newt221 Says:

    So sorry for the loss you are feeling. You are right that you should hold your loved ones close and let them know how you feel about them.

    Loved ones and friends find places in your heart. When they pass or leave, there is an emtiness. Remeber them fondly. And say a little prayer for those who are left behind.

  2. sunnydelyte21 Says:

    I’m sorry for you loss. Sometimes people don’t realize someone until their gone.

    You should always cherish a person while they are hear, because once they are taken from this world we can’t get them back, but the live on in our hearts.

    • drtombibey Says:


      Amen. I am glad this man and I were friends while he was still here, and glad we both told each other so.

      Dr. B

  3. Mrs. Chili Says:

    I’ve always had a theoretical appreciation for this idea, then got some practical knowledge in it when my mother passed in August. It’s a lesson that often has to be learned the hard way.

    • drtombibey Says:


      At times along the way I was too stubborn but my people stuck with me and we keep hanging in there. The older I get the more I appreciate them.

      Dr. B

  4. What a sweet thing to say, ‘Better than I deserve.’ Aren’t we all living a life that is better than we deserve? That’s going right up on my wall. Let’s keep his words alive.


    • drtombibey Says:


      He was indeed a sweet man; very kind and thoughtful, yet a man who played football and was a lifetime athlete. Sometimes I think guys like him are tranquil ’cause deep down inside they are comfortable in their own skin and don’t feel the need to prove much.

      He had a lot of cool sayings. I agree with you, we need to keep his spirit and ideas alive. THere is no doubt his family will; that man was loved.

      Dr. B

  5. Wise advice. It’s always hard to lose a friend or loved one. Good to try to remember to love while you can.

  6. pied type Says:

    Sorry for your loss, Dr. B. It reminds me once again to never go to bed mad and never pass up a chance to tell someone I love them.

    • drtombibey Says:

      Pied type,

      So true. Our people are everything and we should never take them for granted. In this man’s case they were a tight family and he had no doubts about that. I think that is why he had so much serenity.

      Dr. B

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